How InnerHaven Remembers: A Guide to Memory and Personalization

A conversation partner who forgets everything you've shared isn't really a partner—it's a stranger you have to re-introduce yourself to every time. InnerHaven's personalization system is designed to prevent that. Through memories, personality modifiers, and custom instructions, your companions become more attuned to you over time. Here's exactly how it works.

The Memory System

Memories are facts, preferences, and personal details that your companion carries into every conversation. When your Guide knows you're navigating a career change, or your Confidant remembers that your mother's name is Elena, the conversation starts from understanding instead of zero.

How Memories Are Created

Memories can be created in two ways: manually through the Memories tab in your Dashboard, or from suggestions your companion offers during conversations (which you approve or reject). Each memory is a simple statement—something you want your companion to know and remember.

Examples:

• "I'm training for my first marathon in April"
• "I get anxious in social situations"
• "My dog's name is Biscuit"
• "I don't like being given unsolicited advice—ask before suggesting solutions"
• "I'm working through a difficult breakup"

Memory Categories

Each memory is assigned a category, which helps the system prioritize what gets surfaced in a given conversation:

The system pulls up to 10 memories per conversation, prioritizing pinned memories first, then emotional context, then preferences and facts. This means your most important memories always inform the conversation, while less critical details surface when relevant.

Scoping: Global, Role, and Companion

Memories can be scoped at three levels, giving you fine-grained control over which companions see which information:

• Global memories are shared with all your companions. A memory like "I'm an introvert who recharges by being alone" applies everywhere.
• Role-scoped memories apply to every companion within a specific role. For example, a memory like "I prefer structured advice with action items" set for the Guide role applies to all your Guide companions, but not your Best Friend or Coach.
• Companion-specific memories are tied to a single companion. A boundary for your Confidant like "Let me vent without trying to fix things" doesn't need to apply to your Coach, and an accountability goal for your Coach doesn't need to follow your Muse.

This three-tier system means you can set universal facts once at the global level, apply role-appropriate context at the role level, and fine-tune individual companion relationships at the companion level.

Full Control

You can view, edit, pin, and delete any memory at any time from your Dashboard. Nothing is permanent unless you want it to be. If your circumstances change—you finish the marathon, you adopt a second dog, you're past the breakup—update your memories and your companions adjust immediately.

Personality Modifiers

Memories tell your companion what to remember. Personality modifiers tell them how to be. These are sliders that adjust your companion's conversational style along specific dimensions.

Universal Modifiers (All Roles)

Every role has access to warmth, verbosity, formality, and playfulness. But some roles have additional modifiers that make sense for their purpose:

• Guide and Coach have directness, structure level, and accountability sliders—so you can choose between a gentle nudge and a firm push
• Emotional roles have emotional depth and challenge level—controlling how deeply your companion explores difficult feelings

Free users have access to three core sliders (warmth, playfulness, verbosity) on default companions. Adult and Unlimited users unlock the full modifier set for all companions.

Custom Instructions

Custom instructions are freeform text—up to 2,000 characters—that tell your companion how to behave in ways that sliders can't capture. Think of it as a personal briefing document.

Custom instructions are available for Adult and Unlimited tier users. They apply per-companion, so your Coach can have different instructions than your Muse. This is where personalization gets genuinely personal—you're shaping not just what your companion knows but how they communicate.

Custom Companions

Beyond modifying default characters, users at every tier can create custom companions. Each custom companion has:

• A custom name and description
• A chosen gender identity (Male, Female, or Non-binary)
• A unique avatar
• Full access to personality sliders
• Their own custom instructions

Custom companion limits vary by tier: Free (1), Starter (5), Adult (20), and Unlimited (50). There are no per-role caps. Each custom companion carries its own memories, personality settings, and conversation history—a fully independent character tailored to your needs.

How It All Comes Together

When you open a conversation, InnerHaven assembles your companion's context from three layers:

1. Role identity — The companion's base personality (Best Friend, Guide, Coach, etc.) and its built-in behavioral framework
2. Personality modifiers — Your slider settings that tune the companion's warmth, directness, playfulness, and other traits
3. Personal context — Your memories (up to 10, prioritized by importance and category) and custom instructions

The result is a companion that speaks with a consistent personality, remembers your life context, and respects your communication preferences—every time you talk. The more you invest in setting up your memories and modifiers, the more natural and useful the conversations become.

Personalization by Tier

Free users get a meaningful experience with default companions, basic personality adjustments, 1 custom companion, and 2 free voice minutes. Upgrading to Starter unlocks persistent long-term memory, two additional roles (Muse and Guide), 5 custom companions, and 5 free voice minutes. Adult adds the full personalization suite—custom instructions, additional sliders, 20 custom companions, and 10 free voice minutes.